So I have a GFs who have complained about guys.
Guys not calling. Guys who play games. Guys who they think are
intimidated by them. Guys think they are too fat/skinny/short/tall/dark/light. Guys who are too busy to make time for them.
In fact I have done these things and continue to do
them on occasion BUT (there is always a but isn't there....what my butt is fat....oh no....back to the point) I read that book "He's just not that into you". I know I know. Clich. Overrated...blah blah. Well the authors had loads of good points that I didn't really need a book to tell me but it did remind me of exactly what I am worth.
Below are some of those earth shattering words I needed to be reminded of and so do some of my GFs (I've highlighted the ones I thought were most important for a particular friend):
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends" A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He
didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
You cannot change a man's behaviour.* Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has
more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
*Note I did not write the list. It came to me in an e-mail.